Chapter one
As with most people, my earliest memories are of my parents, especially my father. He was a dominating figure in my life and those early years were no exception. An army officer, he waited until he was into his thirties before taking a wife. For his bride he chose the eighteen year old cousin of his twin brother's wife. My mother was the daughter of a tall, Cherokee woman and an extremely short British man whose close resemblance to a leprechaun made me wonder about his true heritage. My instincts shouted Irish when I grew old enough to realize that red hair and green eyes are very Celtic traits. My father's parents shared similar ancestries. His mother was a tiny Cherokee woman and his father was a tall, muscular Englishman with blonde hair and crystal blue eyes. These myriad traits watered down into some unusual genetic characteristics for the grandchildren. I inherited the red hair and green eyes, but the brown of my grandmothers would not be outdone. My green eyes are littered with brown flecks, giving me an unusual hazel shade that changes hues with my attire. I have the porcelain skin and multitudinous freckles of a red-head with the high cheekbones, small eyes, and oily skin of my Native American grandmothers.
My father hoped desperately to have a daughter and when I was born he was the happiest man alive. I was 'Daddy's Little Girl' and 'The Apple of His Eye' and every other cliche concerning a father's devotion to his daughter. Whenever possible, he would take me camping or fishing or hiking or hunting. I was too young to realize this was not a normal routine for raising a little girl. I was thoroughly delighted with the toy cars and trucks and pistols and cowboy boots I received as I was growing up. With the help of the little boy living just down the road from my house, I came to the realization that I was a girl instead of a boy. I was not happy! I wanted to be like my father and that would never happen if I was a girl.
One spring morning in my third year my mom dressed me in my bright red cowgirl outfit with the white fringe. She fixed my strawberry blonde hair into wavy curls, placed my white cowboy boots on my feet, and drove me to the nearest photographer to have my picture taken. Years later my dad would show me the one remaining shot from that day and brag about his "little angel in her cowgirl clothes doing what she does best...talking." In the picture I was holding a red telephone and smiling for the camera. It was a happy omen of the years ahead.
After the photo shoot, which I remember absolutely nothing about, my mom decided to stop by a friend's house to 'show me off.' As they were sitting at the dining room table, drinking coffee and discussing the world in general, I wandered through the house looking for something to get into. It was my nature to be curious. On one of the end tables in the living room I found a pair of bright, shiny scissors. Such an object is simply begging to be used. I picked them up and did what I had seen my mom do on numerous occasions to herself....I began to cut my hair. Not having the talent or knowledge of a cosmetologist, I did the very best I could, which, from my mother's description, was a "heck of a job."
When my mom finally decided to search for me, she was horrified to find me sitting in the living room floor with strands and strands of strawberry blonde hair around me. There were patches of bristly stubble and other patches of complete baldness on my head. All told, there was very little left of my hair except what lay on the floor around my legs.
In stricken tears, my mom took me to a friend who was a hairdresser. After a thorough examination, she handed down the judgement....the only way to even the mess on my head was to buzz cut it as if I were a boy. She took a pair of clippers in hand and set to work. My mom has told me that when the chair swiveled around so I could view the finished product, my face broke out in the widest smile and I actually laughed with joy. Staring at me from the mirror was the perfect image of a little red-headed boy. It was probably the happiest moment in my three years of life.
My father hoped desperately to have a daughter and when I was born he was the happiest man alive. I was 'Daddy's Little Girl' and 'The Apple of His Eye' and every other cliche concerning a father's devotion to his daughter. Whenever possible, he would take me camping or fishing or hiking or hunting. I was too young to realize this was not a normal routine for raising a little girl. I was thoroughly delighted with the toy cars and trucks and pistols and cowboy boots I received as I was growing up. With the help of the little boy living just down the road from my house, I came to the realization that I was a girl instead of a boy. I was not happy! I wanted to be like my father and that would never happen if I was a girl.
One spring morning in my third year my mom dressed me in my bright red cowgirl outfit with the white fringe. She fixed my strawberry blonde hair into wavy curls, placed my white cowboy boots on my feet, and drove me to the nearest photographer to have my picture taken. Years later my dad would show me the one remaining shot from that day and brag about his "little angel in her cowgirl clothes doing what she does best...talking." In the picture I was holding a red telephone and smiling for the camera. It was a happy omen of the years ahead.
After the photo shoot, which I remember absolutely nothing about, my mom decided to stop by a friend's house to 'show me off.' As they were sitting at the dining room table, drinking coffee and discussing the world in general, I wandered through the house looking for something to get into. It was my nature to be curious. On one of the end tables in the living room I found a pair of bright, shiny scissors. Such an object is simply begging to be used. I picked them up and did what I had seen my mom do on numerous occasions to herself....I began to cut my hair. Not having the talent or knowledge of a cosmetologist, I did the very best I could, which, from my mother's description, was a "heck of a job."
When my mom finally decided to search for me, she was horrified to find me sitting in the living room floor with strands and strands of strawberry blonde hair around me. There were patches of bristly stubble and other patches of complete baldness on my head. All told, there was very little left of my hair except what lay on the floor around my legs.
In stricken tears, my mom took me to a friend who was a hairdresser. After a thorough examination, she handed down the judgement....the only way to even the mess on my head was to buzz cut it as if I were a boy. She took a pair of clippers in hand and set to work. My mom has told me that when the chair swiveled around so I could view the finished product, my face broke out in the widest smile and I actually laughed with joy. Staring at me from the mirror was the perfect image of a little red-headed boy. It was probably the happiest moment in my three years of life.
